The Philanthropy Paradox: Where Charity Ends and Codependency Begins The recent advice column from Slate's Dear Prudence has sparked a conversation about the complexities of relationships, charity, and self worth.
Tattered and Torn, a 38 year old woman in an eight year monogamous relationship with Oliver, has shared her struggles with feeling undervalued by her partner's lack of romantic gestures and excessive focus on philanthropy.
At first glance, Oliver seems like the epitome of kindness and generosity.